Tuesday, December 30, 2008

Christmas Day - Highlights



What a joy that we have a day to celebrate the birth of our Lord. All the rest...well, there's the good, bad and ugly!
Of course the bad is the consumerism (and one of the cats peeing on some Christmas presents) and the ugly is some of the horrible "Christmas" displays. The good, are those things that bring joy to God and remind us of WHY we celebrate Christmas.
Here are some highlights of our day:

- Christmas Eve at the Tumacacori Mission (see previous post)

- The kids wanted us to open the presents they got for us at the school's "santa store" before they opened theirs

- We shared what we are thankful for - none of it was stuff

- We spent time helping each other out, and I don't even think there was a fight

- Lots of family came over for a wonderful time of fellowship. What a gift it was to celebrate and spend time together. Everyone brought their dog along as well, so along with 16 people we had 6 cats and 6 dogs. There wasn't an alpha dog among them, so they enjoyed their party, too!

I hope you had a wonderful Christmas!

Sunday, December 28, 2008

Christmas Eve


Tumacaccori Mission Front
Originally uploaded by kretyen
Once again we spent a beautiful Christmas Eve at the Luminaria Night at the Tumacacori Mission. It's very old and somewhat crumbling, but it shines in true beauty with all the candles lit in the darkness. Ken was busy taking pictures outside, while the rest of us walked into the church behind a group of carolers. They sang Christ child songs, and when we were inside the sanctuary, the voices echoed beautifully. I have to say it was a truly sacred moment for me. Seeing the gentle light of the candles, the beautiful voices singing of Jesus and being in such an old, old place brought tears to my eyes, and God close to my heart.
Nothing like the truly simple things that make Christmas a true joy.

Friday, December 19, 2008

Of a Certain Age


I'm quite belated in posting this....Yes, I am now of a "certain age"! I turned the big 4-0 this fall. Hard to believe that all those years have gone by. My birthday present was a Wii Fit, which has been a lot of fun. On the blurry t.v. screen is my Mii, all suited up for the ski jump. And there I am in a tank top - it was November, believe it or not. We had a warm autumn. I have to say the biggest surprise was how sore I get after playing tennis and doing yoga. I didn't realize how out of shape I am. Walking every day only does so much!
Turning 40 really wasn't that big of a deal, it just seemed unreal. Maybe it's because when my mom turned 40, she had an 18 year old, and my kids are still pretty young. They must help me feel young, although I can't help but wonder when all the stress will catch up with me physically with more wrinkles and gray hair!
My life crises happened at 30 when I was questioning my accomplishments in life and how I wasn't anywhere close to where I hoped and dreamed I'd be. That was before kids, and realizing that raising kids and making a loving home are accomplishments enough. Everything else is just icing.
And life goes on....

Tuesday, December 16, 2008

Battle of the Underwear


Carlos received a bill today. It was a bill for NOT wearing clean underwear. For some reason, both Carlos and Kervens don't seem to worry much about body odor. Nice for them, but it's one of those battles I'm not giving in on. However, I am wearying - I'm tired of hearing myself ask about clean underwear and deodorant, tired of hearing Karl get on them about their cleanliness, and tired of smelling the stink! I even bought cool looking new underwear last week to motivate him (?!?)
So, along with a couple of other laundry issues I'm getting tired of including sticky gum that gets everywhere and candy wrappers, Carlos is going to be charged an underwear fee. If nagging and reminding don't help, maybe hurting the pocketbook will. For each pair of underwear he is missing in the laundry he will be charged .50 cents. If he is missing underwear two weeks in a row, it will jump to $1.00 per missing pair. I won't ask, nag, or remind him to change his underwear daily. He'll just get a nice little bill each week after I've finished the laundry. Can you tell I'm at my wits end?
Of course if I told him I was writing this, I'm sure he'd be horrified. Hopefully this course of action works...if not, I'll have a weekly posting of daily underwear cleanliness for all to see. Nothing like airing our dirty laundry!
Update 12/23/2008
Carlos used 5 pair of underwear in the last 7 days....big improvement over 3 last week and 1 the week before!! :)

Saturday, November 15, 2008

Election spurs 'hundreds' of race threats, crimes

Unfortunately, I'm not surprised that since Barack Obama was elected President, a lot of racists and racism is coming out of the woodwork. For me, this is very personal. My children may not be from my womb, but they are from my heart, and I will fight for them just the same. I realize that people are afraid of what they don't know, but I am angry nonetheless. It's inconceivable to me that we can hate a person solely by their skin color, or even religion. Jesus calls us to LOVE. LOVE. LOVE. May God have mercy on us.

Election spurs 'hundreds' of race threats, crimes

Nov 15, 9:00 PM (ET)
By JESSE WASHINGTON


Cross burnings. Schoolchildren chanting "Assassinate Obama." Black figures hung from nooses. Racial epithets scrawled on homes and cars.
Incidents around the country referring to President-elect Barack Obama are dampening the post election glow of racial progress and harmony, highlighting the stubborn racism that remains in America.
From California to Maine, police have documented a range of alleged crimes, from vandalism and vague threats to at least one physical attack. Insults and taunts have been delivered by adults, college students and second-graders.
There have been "hundreds" of incidents since the election, many more than usual, said Mark Potok, director of the Intelligence Project at the Southern Poverty Law Center, which monitors hate crimes.
One was in Snellville, Ga., where Denene Millner said a boy on the school bus told her 9-year-old daughter the day after the election: "I hope Obama gets assassinated." That night, someone trashed her sister-in-law's front lawn, mangled the Obama lawn signs, and left two pizza boxes filled with human feces outside the front door, Millner said.
She described her emotions as a combination of anger and fear.
"I can't say that every white person in Snellville is evil and anti-Obama and willing to desecrate my property because one or two idiots did it," said Millner, who is black. "But it definitely makes you look a little different at the people who you live with, and makes you wonder what they're capable of and what they're really thinking."
Potok, who is white, said he believes there is "a large subset of white people in this country who feel that they are losing everything they know, that the country their forefathers built has somehow been stolen from them."
Grant Griffin, a 46-year-old white Georgia native, expressed similar sentiments: "I believe our nation is ruined and has been for several decades and the election of Obama is merely the culmination of the change.
"If you had real change it would involve all the members of (Obama's) church being deported," he said.
Change in whatever form does not come easy, and a black president is "the most profound change in the field of race this country has experienced since the Civil War," said William Ferris, senior associate director of the Center for the Study of the American South at the University of North Carolina. "It's shaking the foundations on which the country has existed for centuries."
"Someone once said racism is like cancer," Ferris said. "It's never totally wiped out, it's in remission."
If so, America's remission lasted until the morning of Nov. 5.
The day after the vote hailed as a sign of a nation changed, black high school student Barbara Tyler of Marietta, Ga., said she heard hateful Obama comments from white students, and that teachers cut off discussion about Obama's victory.
Tyler spoke at a press conference by the Georgia chapter of the NAACP calling for a town hall meeting to address complaints from across the state about hostility and resentment. Another student, from a Covington middle school, said he was suspended for wearing an Obama shirt to school Nov. 5 after the principal told students not to wear political paraphernalia.
The student's mother, Eshe Riviears, said the principal told her: "Whether you like it or not, we're in the South, and there are a lot of people who are not happy with this decision."
Other incidents include:

_Four North Carolina State University students admitted writing anti-Obama comments in a tunnel designated for free speech expression, including one that said: "Let's shoot that (N-word) in the head." Obama has received more threats than any other president-elect, authorities say.

_At Standish, Maine, a sign inside the Oak Hill General Store read: "Osama Obama Shotgun Pool." Customers could sign up to bet $1 on a date when Obama would be killed. "Stabbing, shooting, roadside bombs, they all count," the sign said. At the bottom of the marker board was written "Let's hope someone wins."

_Racist graffiti was found in places including New York's Long Island, where two dozen cars were spray-painted; Kilgore, Texas, where the local high school and skate park were defaced; and the Los Angeles area, where swastikas, racial slurs and "Go Back To Africa" were spray painted on sidewalks, houses and cars.

_Second- and third-grade students on a school bus in Rexburg, Idaho, chanted "assassinate Obama," a district official said.

_University of Alabama professor Marsha L. Houston said a poster of the Obama family was ripped off her office door. A replacement poster was defaced with a death threat and a racial slur. "It seems the election brought the racist rats out of the woodwork," Houston said.

_Black figures were hanged by nooses from trees on Mount Desert Island, Maine, the Bangor Daily News reported. The president of Baylor University in Waco, Texas said a rope found hanging from a campus tree was apparently an abandoned swing and not a noose.

_Crosses were burned in yards of Obama supporters in Hardwick, N.J., and Apolacan Township, Pa.

_A black teenager in New York City said he was attacked with a bat on election night by four white men who shouted 'Obama.'

_In the Pittsburgh suburb of Forest Hills, a black man said he found a note with a racial slur on his car windshield, saying "now that you voted for Obama, just watch out for your house."
Emotions are often raw after a hard-fought political campaign, but now those on the losing side have an easy target for their anger.

"The principle is very simple," said BJ Gallagher, a sociologist and co-author of the diversity book "A Peacock in the Land of Penguins.""If I can't hurt the person I'm angry at, then I'll vent my anger on a substitute, i.e., someone of the same race."

"We saw the same thing happen after the 9-11 attacks, as a wave of anti-Muslim violence swept the country. We saw it happen after the Rodney King verdict, when Los Angeles blacks erupted in rage at the injustice perpetrated by 'the white man.'"

"It's as stupid and ineffectual as kicking your dog when you've had a bad day at the office," Gallagher said. "But it happens a lot."
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Associated Press writers Errin Haines, Jerry Harkavy, Jay Reeves, Johnny Clark and researcher Rhonda Shafner contributed to this report.

Tuesday, November 11, 2008

Now We Are Nine


Vicki recently celebrated her 9th birthday! My, the years go quickly. As you can see by the photo to the left, (taken by Ken) she was quite excited and animated during her birthday party. Her friend Maria sits next to her.
We had a Family Party (my style of party) with both sets of Grandparents and Uncle Ken and Aunt Lisa and her family. Vicki chose the menu - Blasted Chicken, Corn Bread, Salad, Fruit Salad, and Root beer Floats for dessert (she doesn't like cake!). We lit her 9 candles on top of a pile of ice cream in a cup. With Vicki, nothing is "usual"!
Vicki was thrilled to get a Baby Alive (opening present above) that drinks a special orange liquid and pees it out. Diapers are "only" $12.99 for a set of 8. Wow! Nothing like marketing! She's saving her money for diapers. I suppose it's a good lesson for the costs of having a baby!

Thursday, November 6, 2008

After The Election

Vicki woke up Nov. 5 and was cheering and dancing because Obama won. After a bit she said "my friends who voted for McCain are going to be really disappointed." She was truly sad for them. At the bus stop, her friend Maria wore a t-shirt she wrote on with marker that said "McCain/Palin - We tryed" with hearts all over it. Vicki asked her "are you disappointed"? And sadly, Maria said "yes". Vicki then tried to cheer her up with funny faces and giggles. It finally worked after a few minutes!

I want to share a Letter to the Editor a woman in Tucson wrote to the paper:
"As the mother of two Ethiopian born sons, I have a heart full of joy as America celebrates the election of Barack Obama. This morning, I told my adopted 5-year-old son that the new president of the United States looks like him. His eyes grew wide and a smile spread across his face. Even at his young age, somehow he understands. I cannot begin to imagine how his view of what he can attain in life will change. Maybe his path in life will not change, but he can walk it holding his head a little higher and his back a little straighter. To quote the words of an African-American interviewed on NPR: "Rosa sat so Martin could walk. Martin walked so Obama could run. Obama ran so our children could fly." May all our children fly." Kristen Penny

I couldn't have said it better. Vicki, and the boys, don't fully understand what it means to be the President, but they know that he is the same color as they are and that makes them happy. I hope Vicki will no longer wish to have skin and hair like me, because now the President (elect) looks like her, (and his daughters will be in the White House!) and she can feel proud of the beauty she is.

President Obama will have a lot on his plate. This country is in a moral and financial mess. He certainly won't be "walking on water" in January! I want to share with you a letter from Jim Wallis of the Sojourner's website (a Christian website with an emphasis on social justice):


Yesterday’s election represents a watershed moment in the life and history of our country. Regardless of how you voted, our entire nation can celebrate the milestone of our first African-American president. We can all embrace this profound opportunity for deeper racial reconciliation and social justice.

But this is also a moment that demands prophetic leadership and the power of a faith-inspired movement. From the abolition of slavery, to women's suffrage, to civil rights, history shows us that political change happens when social movements push on open doors of political leadership. And the best movements have spiritual foundations.Please join me in telling President-elect Obama that we will pray for his presidency while also holding him accountable to the promises of a new kind of politics.

This election represents a new and open door for change. However, we know that President Obama will face tremendous pressure and obstacles in pursuing an agenda that addresses the moral imperatives to overcome poverty, develop renewable energy, responsibly withdraw from Iraq, and dramatically reduce the number of abortions.

That is why your commitment is needed now more than ever. We must ensure that the campaign slogan of “change” becomes a new movement for change.Send a personal pledge to the new president, telling him that you will be part of that movement.

We will deliver your pledge to President-elect Obama and his team, with the message that the faith community will be mobilizing both in support of him and to hold him accountable. Sojourners will start with President Obama’s own pledge to mobilize our nation to cut poverty in half in America over ten years and provide the leadership necessary to achieve the Millennium Development Goals to cut extreme global poverty in half by 2015.Join us in ensuring that these campaign promises become a reality.

In recent times, religion has been both too narrow and too divisive. The faith community can now play a new role—bringing people together on the biggest moral issues of our time—even across old political divisions.

This election has shown that the era of single-issue voting is over and a broader moral agenda that seeks common ground on moral issues has begun. Members of Black churches, Catholics, evangelicals, Latinos, and mainline Protestants are acting on a broad set of biblical values. I look forward to the day when both poverty reduction and abortion reduction become nonpartisan issues and bipartisan causes.

Please join me in offering President-elect Obama our prayers and our actions as he assumes the responsibility of leading our nation in a very challenging time.

Sincerely,
Jim Wallis
President, Sojourners

The letter of Prayer and Action that you can sign and send on to President-elect Obama can be found here: http://go.sojo.net/campaign/prayerandpledge/8x683durr7kbtk36?qp_source=act%5f0811%5fpledge

I encourage you to look at it, and sign and send it on if you agree!
Blessings!
Deborah

Tuesday, November 4, 2008

Getting Political


This has been an emotional day for Vicki. Actually, an emotional election season! She's been rooting for Barack Obama since the beginning, and trying to convince her schoolmates that they should vote for him as well. Today, the school had an election and McCain won. She was devastated. She was full of emotion and tears at this great loss. I have to say, it's been quite an interesting election season. The kids have come home from school telling me what their classmates have been saying about Obama - his two friends flew into the World Trade Center, Obama will ruin the country, Obama is a terrorist.... I've heard from fellow soccer moms and grandmas that Osama and Obama are the same - that Obama is going to take all our guns away, he'll refuse to swear on the Bible (only the Koran) when he's sworn in as President, that we'll become a socialist country, etc. etc. ad nauseaum. For me, I've been so amazed at how ADULTS perpetuate rumors and don't look into statements to see if there is any validity to them! Fear has definitely been used throughout this campaign!
Whether you are for Obama or not, this is an historical election. The fact that a black man (yes, even though he's "half" white, he's still viewed as black...just look at our history) may become president of our country is incredible. Even if you don't agree with his politics, he is a great role model for us.
Personally, I've been pretty quiet about my beliefs. I'm sure you've guessed by now that if Vicki is for Obama (and Carlos and Kervens) so are their parents. Do we agree with everything? Of course not. Our biggest concern, as always, is abortion. Without a doubt, it is murder. We don't agree with Obama's position. However, when it comes to the majority of his beliefs and concerns, we share them. Our country has been horrible in dealing with the poor, the uninsured, your average "Joe", troubles in other countries, and of course the unjust war in Iraq. (WHY did we invade Iraq - supposedly because of Saddam's ethnic cleansing - WHAT about SUDAN? SOMALIA? etc. etc.) ...Oil, and personal vendettas, but that's not for tonight.
I told Vicki she won't know before she goes to bed if Obama will win. I don't know if there will be tears or cheers when she wakes up, but we need to remember that however this election turns out, God is in control! Nothing we do or don't do (or who we vote for or not) will change that. We're not THAT powerful!! Whew, thank you, Lord!!

Thursday, October 9, 2008

Elks Shoot-Out winner!


Kervens won 2nd place for his age division in the local Elks Soccer Shoot-Out. The Elks had a nice dinner and awards ceremony for the families. Kervens missed 1st place by only 1 point! Nonetheless, we're kind of grateful he didn't get 1st....that would mean driving to Tucson, Phoenix and potentially beyond for more competitions. Yikes! Maybe next year...
It's been a good soccer season, and we've had fun watching the kids play and develop their skills.
Congratulations, Kervens!

Wednesday, October 8, 2008

It's the little things that matter

I loved watching the giraffes at the Tucson Zoo cuddle and love on each other. I had a hard time walking away. It touched my heart to watch them show each other that they are loved in such a small way.

Small things really make a difference in our lives, especially when it comes to people. How often do we forget how important it is to show our love and concern for others even in little ways?
How often do we give a little hug, a pat on the shoulder, or even a smile to our family and friends?

I know I can get caught up in just getting through the day. Get the kids up, dressed, eat, and out the door for school. Rush, rush. Every so often, when I'm in my "HURRY" mode, Carlos will yell out to me "I love you momma". It makes me stop in my tracks every time. I pause, say "I love you, too, Carlos", and give him a little hug. He's pretty good at helping me focus. Pretty amazing for a kid who has a hard time focusing himself!!

Vicki helps me realize what's important in a different way. She follows me everywhere when she's home and is always looking for attention. I often try to forget she's attached to my side so I can get something done, but she's always there reminding me what's really important. She's growing so fast, and I really won't have my little girl at my side much longer. When I think of that, my heart gives pause, and then a bit of pang, as I realize my time with these kids really is short.

So often it takes just a little pat, a smile, a hug, a laugh, an "I love you" to help us focus on what is really important in our lives - our kids, our spouses, our family, friends and neighbors. People. Not things, not doing things, not having and getting, but being - being in the present moment with our loved ones so they can feel how much they are valued.

Monday, September 29, 2008

Getting Into The Grove


It's been awhile! Life has been quite the merry-go-round, but we're FINALLY getting used to it. Supposedly it takes 27 days to form a new habit. With me, it's more like 2 months! Must be I'm getting older (more about that another time). Since returning from Michigan, we jumped right into school, a special 4 day a week (consecutive) learning program for Vicki, soccer (EVERY night plus Saturdays), and lots of miscellaneous. Finally, we're getting it. No more "rush, rush, rushing makes us grump, grump, grumpy.
More...soon to come!

Tuesday, August 26, 2008

Missing Michigan


We've been back in Arizona for over two weeks now, but I'm still missing Michigan. We had a wonderful vacation visiting family and friends, and perfect weather to compliment it all.
One of my favorite places is the Grand Haven Pier, and this was the first trip we were able to walk on it as a family.
Both Karl and I talked about the possibility of moving back, but I suppose we were just dreaming. I've lived near water pretty much all my life, and I'm finding that I miss it more and more. I also know we both are miserable with the overcast winter skies and the dirty, messy, ugly end of winter. For now, we'll stay put.

Sunday, August 17, 2008

Why Michael Phelp's Mom Cries

[NY TIMES Photo of Debbie Phelps]

It's been a lot of fun watching Michael Phelps achieve history, but even more fun watching his mom's reaction to his wins. How can I be so presumptuous as to know why she cries? Of course she's utterly thrilled with having a child win a gold medal in the Olympics, but there is more. I have an ADHD kid. Michael has ADHD as well, and I KNOW the challenges Debbie had. Challenges with a hyper, distractible kid, challenges with schools who may not see the full potential of your child, and challenges with folks who just have a hard time dealing with a child who isn't "normal".

Of course, I'm talking about Carlos. This morning, he drove me insane; just a few minutes after he got out of bed!! He was distracted by the kittens, a toy lying on the floor, seeing the plate as a flying saucer and doing anything and everything but keeping his butt on the chair and eating his orange. When I deal with a distractible, hyper, giddy kid on a daily basis trying to accomplish simple things to get through the day, I get easily frustrated and impatient. Not only is our cute little Carlos ADHD, but he's VERY strong willed and very smart. That all spells T.R.O.U.B.L.E. for a parent. Fifteen minutes after Carlos got up, I told Karl, who knew that Michael was ADHD - " I know EXACTLY why Debbie Phelps cries."

Debbie has already been through similar circumstances to what we're going through with Carlos.
The awesome thing is not only has she seen him overcome his challenges, but she's been watching him become a champion in the world's eyes. This kid who was teased because he looked and acted different has shattered world records.

Even though Carlos may never achieve what Michael Phelps has, it helps me to focus on the future for Carlos and that the daily challenges we have are just temporary. Carlos' destiny may not be greatness in the world's eyes, but it WILL be in God's. He actually has already achieved that in his young years solely because he is God's child.

You go, Michael; and Debbie, I'm crying right along with you!

Saturday, August 16, 2008

Deshun Glover - In Memory



While visiting in Michigan, we received horrible news. A friend of Carlos and Vicki, and the son of my friend Mary, died in a tragic accident. Deshun was out on a baseball field, one of his favorite places, helping his older brother's team. A storm was coming, and they were told to clear off the field. Deshun went through a puddle that turned out to be electrified, and in front of his family, baseball friends and spectators, little Deshun was electrocuted. Many tried to get him out of the puddle he was standing in, but the electricity wouldn't let him go, it was so strong. Only Deshun's father, Chuck, running from a distance away, swooped up Deshun like "Superman", as the paper noted. CPR was started with a wooden bat because he was still electrified. He was taken to the hospital, where shortly after, he left this world.

I don't want Deshun's legacy to be about his death, but about his life. He was a friendly little boy who's beautiful smile radiated. He was a good friend, who forgave easily and helped others. Deshun overcame a very difficult beginning with the help of Mary and Chuck. He joined their family close to the time we first met him, and Mary saw to it that all of his challenges were overcome, and Deshun was a willing partner. Deshun tried so hard to be the best he could be, and honestly, he succeeded.

Deshun's legacy - his life, wouldn't be what it was without Mary. His life is a tribute to her, and all the time and encouragement and love she gave. Deshun absolutely couldn't have had a better mother than Mary. God knew what he was doing when He placed Deshun into Chuck and Mary's life, and we also have to trust that He knew what He was doing when he took Deshun. Mary said "God must have needed Deshun more than me." We'll never know WHY, but our lives are all the richer for knowing Deshun, and seeing the true love and devotion of his incredible mother. Thank you, Lord!

Wednesday, July 9, 2008

Christmas In July



If you were wondering WHY you didn't get a Christmas card from us, it's because we didn't send ANY!! It's not that we didn't try. I ordered picture cards (picture above) with a New Year's greeting....just in case they didn't make it by Christmas. The USPS had different ideas. After waiting two weeks for the cards to come, I contacted the photo company. They refunded my money. In the middle of January, the cards showed up! It appears they were sent back to the company, and they forwarded them on to us. Well, I was out of the "Christmas mood" in January, and busy driving to Tucson three days a week on top of working and lots of other things. So, since some people celebrate Christmas in July (???!!!), I thought I send you all a Happy Greeting and wishes for a wonderful remainder of the year!!

Thursday, June 26, 2008

The Monsoon has begun

We are ecstatic!! The Monsoon season began yesterday. Huge clouds started forming over the Santa Rita's on Saturday giving us hope for the rains to come. It's been months since we've had any rain, and when it comes, we love to be in it. What makes the Monsoons special is not just the rain, but the absolute showy beauty that they bring. The huge clouds add depth to the mountains and the lightning shows are the best entertainment around. Of course there are a few downsides to the storms like bugs, dust devils and power outages, but they are well worth dealing with for such a wonderful, unique season here in hot, dry Southern Arizona.

Tuesday, June 24, 2008

Entering The Gaming Age


I never thought we'd have gaming in our house, but we had an opportunity we couldn't pass up. We were looking for an incentive to get Kervens to participate in tutoring this summer, and Karl's co-worker Jake offered us his old X Box with 12 games for free! So far, it's a carrot that works very well with the boys. As you can see, Karl likes to play, too. Vicki's favorite is the Tony Hawk skateboard game, Karl loves the racing one, and the boys will play anything. Now with an X Box in the house, I'm thinking that maybe a Wii Fit would be the perfect thing for me!

Saturday, June 21, 2008

English Language Learner


The education system is funny sometimes. Because English is Carlos' second language, he is classified as an "English Language Learner" or "ELL". He has been in ELL classes since pre-school. This past school year, we asked to have him discharged from the program because he was being taken out of class regularly and missing math. He didn't like the ELL classes, and it seems to us that his English skills are pretty darn good. He has some expressive issues, but he knows the words. It has nothing to do with language. The state of Arizona recently passed a mandate that all kids eligible for ELL will be in ELL class 4 hours each day starting this next school year. This includes Carlos. Parents have the option to have their kids opt out which we will do. The really crazy thing about all of this is Carlos took the Terra Nova test in April, and his score in language was 90 percent. That means his language skills are better than 90 percent of the other kids tested across the country! Go figure!
Update 8/26/08 - Carlos passed his recent ELL test. He's been labeled as "proficient". He will be tested over the next 2 years to make sure he stays that way. In the meantime, it means no ELL classes at school!

Tuesday, June 17, 2008

Hope For A New Life


Last week Kervens brought home this New Testament Bible and some Pesos. Karl and Kervens were returning to the shop when they saw an "illegal" near the train tracks. He crossed over to the pecan grove when he was spotted. Shortly after, Kervens saw the man's backpack sitting by a tree, and the man quite a ways down the track. Karl said that when the crossers are close to their destination, they try to blend in, and often leave behind any bags, backpacks and water bottles. Kervens checked out the backpack. Inside was a water bottle, mens and womens clothing, and this Bible and Pesos. The Bible has the name Irma written inside. Obviously a woman was travelling with this young man. What happened to her? Did she turn back? Get caught? Become injured or sick? I have to say that holding these few things that belonged to another person that was trying for a better life really touched me. I wonder about her life, where she was going, and what her hopes and dreams are. I pray she's OK. We often forget, when we deal with "immigration problems" that the "illegals" are people, and have needs and hopes and desires like we do - and many have the same faith and beliefs that I do. How would Jesus have us treat our fellow Christians (or any others for that matter!) that cross the border for a new life?

Monday, June 16, 2008

Going To The Cats






WELL.....
We weren't going to get anymore cats. I was considering fostering cats and kittens with a local group here, although Karl never warmed up to the idea. SO...we were coming out of Walmart Saturday morning, and Kervens said three very dangerous words: "Look mom, kittens!" There in a cage in the hot sun were these two cuties being given away for free. Now "free" scares me. What kind of people take a free cat? I stood there, kids begging, my mind churning - what kind of home will these kittens end up in? I asked the boy if he was going to sterilize the mom and while they're at it, all the rest of the animals in the house. "Please, mom, PLEEAASSEE!!" I knew I was being crazy, in fact, I wasn't thinking properly. That's what happens when I go to Walmart and there is too much stuff and the kids go crazy over all the things I COULD buy. I said "OK". The boy asked me which one I wanted. How insane is that? Of course we couldn't pick one, and leave the other behind. "We're taking both, and kids, your father is going to kill me." Vicki cried on the way home thinking her dad was going to be really mad at us all.
Karl walked into the garage, and was barraged by all three kids talking and making deals at the same time. He had no idea what they were talking about until he walked into the house and saw two gray kittens. His response "We can keep them - good thing they're gray!" The kids know they have to take a lot of the responsibility on their shoulders for these two; playing with them, feeding them, taking them to the litter box, and their favorite - cleaning the litter box.
We were told by the boy giving them away that the two were girls. Vicki was thrilled. After they were home a bit, I checked them out, and it was pretty obvious they are boys. Since we joked about them being Father's Day gifts, Karl had the privilege of coming up with names. Usually it takes us days to figure that out, but this time, it was pretty quick. Meet Felix (gray/white) and Oscar (gray).
It's loads of fun having two kittens. They love playing and sleeping together, and we have a ball watching them. Felix is smaller, thinner, more adventurous and playful. Oscar is bigger, a bit chunky, a little shy, and will fall asleep in your lap seconds after you start rubbing his neck.
Sydney (in picture above - our 17 y.o. female) and Frodo (other gray cat) are doing great with the kittens. Ollie and Sunny are curious, but a little on the threatened side. They'll be fine in a few days. Here's to healthy cats and cheap vet bills!!

Sunday, June 15, 2008

Happy Father's Day, Daddy!


Vicki and Carlos gave Karl handmade Father's Day gifts; I think Karl liked them more than his MP3 player! The twins 2nd grade teachers were absolutely wonderful this past school year, and they made lots of wonderful memories. The teachers made sure that the dad's weren't left out just because school was out, so they had the kids make gifts before the end of the year.
These gifts are little "effigies" with traced hands and feet and drawn heads. Notice Vicki's painted nails, and Carlos' little curl on his forehead!
They also wrote poems. Vicki wrote Kittens Artistic Reading Laughing (acrostic for Karl) and "My dad has a cat it is Sunny". Carlos wrote "Dad, nice, funny, works, runs, welder, makes me nice things" Runs? Carlos said "well, once!" He also wrote "I love you so much. You make me things that are nice. You are the best, Dad." Awww!
By the way, Vicki's little acrostic was prophetic.....more on that next time!!

The Champions


Kervens Little League Majors team (the Diamondbacks) won the championship yesterday. It was supposed to end Friday night, but the lights went out, and they had to finish it Saturday morning. It was a great championship game. The Diamondbacks won all but three games all season, most of them were a washout, but they had to fight for the last game. The final score was 17-15. Kervens had his best hit of the year - three bases, and on the next hit, he made a run for home. It's been a long season, and we're glad it's over. Kervens had practices twice a week and usually two games as well. Games were at 7:30pm, so I missed most of the games to get Carlos and Vicki to bed on time. Carlos played on a coach-pitch team. We should've put him up to Minors, but at the end of last year's season, he didn't appear ready to move up. He's quite the little athlete. He'll do well next year. I hope Vicki's baseball career is over. She didn't play this year or last, although she claims she wants to play again. She played T-ball, and the only reason she played the whole season was because she got a hotdog after every game! I hope she sticks to soccer. So, we have a break from sports for two months while we get through 100+ degree temperatures. Now that's worth cheering for!!

Tuesday, June 10, 2008

Dad Takes A Hit For The Team



Last night was a rough night at the ballpark. Kervens' team is in the midst of playoffs this week, and both Kervens and Karl came home with owies. Kervens was all scraped up from a slide into home (unfortunately, he was out), and Karl, well, a foul ball found him. He was standing by a tree and heard "heads up". Thankfully, he didn't look up, or he might've hurt his eye. As it is, he has a nice shiner underneath his eye - no pain, just pure beauty.
Karl has been a great baseball dad. This season Kervens had two practices a week and usually two games. Almost all of the games didn't even begin until 7:30 pm, so he went to ALL of them, while I stayed home with the "twins" and put them to bed on time. Even though he's not a big sports fan, nor has he played sports, he's the BEST sports dad!!
Thanks for all you do, Karl!

Monday, June 9, 2008

Girls Rule, Boys Drool


Saturday night coming home from the dog park with Buster, Carlos and Vicki would not settle down. It continued as they got ready for bed, until I really got on them to stop. The first reaction out of Carlos was "Vicki......" I said don't blame your sister, you need to take responsibility for your own behavior. To this, Carlos responded with great emotion and tears - "You think that Vicki rules and I drool? I SLOBBER?" I guess he really takes those playground sayings to heart! I had to pinch myself so I could stop laughing! Later, as I was tucking him in, I talked to him about respecting me and listening and obeying. His response: "But I'm only a KID!!!" Yes, Carlos, you're a kid, but you need to TRY!!! Carlos comes up with the craziest things! I'm really glad he's MY kid!

Saturday, June 7, 2008

Walking The Dog

I meet a lot of interesting people and dogs on my daily morning walks. Of course, having Buster along opens up lots of doors. I walk in a neighborhood adjacent to ours that is 55+ only, and most of the people walking have their dog along. People know others by the names of their dogs, not the owners.
Max is a white Miniature Schnauzer who turned out to be about half the size of a giant Schnauzer. He runs ahead of his owner who is on a motorized scooter, thinking he is pulling her.

Missy is a little shih-tzu who often wears the latest style. Her owners see us, and say "look, Missy, here comes your friend Buster!" Of course Missy couldn't care less. Her mom always gives Buster a biscuit, so he's always thrilled to see her!

Buddy is a very friendly and playful Shepherd who scares Buster. His owner, John and I have been trying to get Buster to lighten up to no avail. John even shares some of his homemade jerky treats that both Buddy and John share, but it hasn't swayed Buster either. John takes Buddy for a walk regularly so Buddy can check his "mail".

Zoe is a miniature Yorkie who is very sweet, but she is pretty scared of Buster. Her owner is always thrilled to see Buster and says "Zoe, there's your friend Buster" but Zoe is shaking in her boots and showing her "submissive teeth". Buster is very kind to Zoe, but he's really hoping for a treat from her owner.

All of the people we meet are empty nesters, and now their dogs are their "kids". I know some day, when our kids are gone, my dog will be my "kid", too. Ya gotta have something to parent!

Monday, June 2, 2008

Giddyup Gals



I just have to share this picture and reminisce a bit about my trip in January that my friend Michelle treated me to. Last summer she made plans to come here to AZ for a "girls" vacation at Los Caballeros in Wickenburg, AZ. I can't believe how quickly January came - of course I was chomping at the bit to have time away from the kids and time with Michelle. The ranch was really beautiful and the accommodations very, very nice. We were on the "Giddyup Gals" weekend with lots of other women, who focused their time riding horses or spending time at the spa. We both love horses, and don't get enough time riding them, so we chose to ride horses all weekend. We went on a nature ride, and a couple of full out running rides, which were an absolute blast. I rode a Mustang - and golly I can't remember his name!! He was 20 years old, and was wild as a youngster. He could really go when he was ready! Michelle's horse was very steady, a little rough, and didn't like running a whole lot, which in the end, was a blessing. The very last run of the very last ride, my horse rounded a corner (the last one, of course!) and nearly ran into another horse who had fallen in a soft sandy spot. I was thrown off. Thank GOD I'm still here, and OK. I was pretty shaken and probably had a bit of a concussion, but got back on the horse (I refused to walk!!). It took about a month of special adjustments and massage to get back to normal. Next time I have a horse run, I'm wearing a helmet!
I had a wonderful, wonderful time with Michelle, and being with horses. We met some really interesting women - one who vacationed by herself once a year; one who was German and published a Southwest magazine for German readers; a mother and daughter pair who had stories that often seemed too unreal to believe, but they probably were true! The daughter works at a zoo in North Carolina. There was an ornery and foul ranch manager, and wonderful ranch hands - funny singers in the bar and friendly staff. We even got to see where Dan Quail's parents live! Whoopee! We had a wonderful naturalist named Dick who shared many things about the desert that I didn't know; but most definitely the BEST part of it all.....spending time with Michelle.
Thanks for the memories, Michelle!

Thursday, May 29, 2008

Staying Young


When I first saw this picture online, I really had to laugh; laugh because it's pretty darn cute. Then I started to think of my time working at a nursing home, and the activities the home offered, and they never offered fencing! What a great idea. I hope I never have to live in a nursing home or assisted living, but if I do, hopefully they'll have great activities.
I really admire the man teaching this class and the folks participating, even if they are using walkers. I'm reminded of my Granny telling me when I was 17 (and clueless) that even though she looked old, she still felt like she was 18 inside.
Now, almost ?? I can really understand. Too often we look at older people and only see what's on the outside - gray hair, wrinkles, slow movements and reactions, difficulty hearing and seeing, etc. But we need to remind ourselves that inside (who they REALLY are - their spirits) they are probably not any different or older than how we feel inside. Maybe just a little more mature - hopefully!

Wednesday, May 28, 2008

Worth Two In The Bush


When we returned home this morning, Vicki noticed a family of Quail in our back yard. There were six tiny babies all peeping away. I went out there to have a closer look, and they all panicked. One of the babies went the opposite way from it's parents, so I picked it up and set him in the right direction. Vicki was so excited she drew a cute picture of the family. It appears they have a nest underneath our storage shed on the side of the house. We'll have to be watchful over the next couple of weeks so that Buster isn't able to get ahold of the babies; he thinks they're fun to play with.

Monday, May 26, 2008

Five Buck Steal

If you want an incredible bargain, just knock on our door. Carlos put his toys and our two trucks up for sale for ONLY $5! Cheep!
Awhile ago, Carlos found a cassette Walkman by the wash where teens skate. It came with an MTV dance cassette and a radio. Unfortunately for Carlos, the MTV dance music is hardly appropriate for young ears, but even worse is the one and only station that comes in loud and clear. It's a bad attitude rap station. He had it blaring yesterday and Karl heard how foul it was. Karl had to take the Walkman away. Try explaining this to an 8 year old!! We explained how it's important to be careful what we let our eyes see and ears hear. God wants us to have pure hearts, and that starts with what we allow into our minds. Of course, he thought what we were saying was not a good thing to put into HIS ears! He was so mad that he took out a bunch of his toys and wrote up the sign you see above. I asked him why he wanted to sell his things (and OUR trucks!), and what he would do with the money, but all he could think of was that he was mad. So here's the sign translated: FOR SALE by Owner. $5 Cheap. Call (our number) La Canoa. Blue Toyota. Red Toyota. Carlos!!
This morning he put all his toys away. He's not mad anymore. Just sad. We'll have to buy him a CD player, or put better songs on his MP3 player. Hopefully that Five Bucks will go a long way!

Saturday, May 24, 2008

The Ultimate Handyman


Boy am I grateful for Karl! No matter what the challenge, Karl is up to the task. His mission for the next few weeks is laminate flooring. We've had stinky carpet for a long time, and I just couldn't take it anymore. Enter "SuperKarl", who saves the day. We're - or shall I say, Karl - is removing all the remaining carpet in our house and replacing it with "wood" flooring. With help from the Handyman's Haven where we bought low cost supplies, and Karl's excellent labor, we're going to have new rooms!! No matter the challenge - plumbing, welding, electrical work, yard work, car work, remodel work; you name it, Karl can do it. He can even focus with distracting kids around!! What a man!
May 26 update: Karl finished the office AND Vicki's room!!

Thursday, May 22, 2008

Crazy Weather




I thought Michigan had crazy weather!! Monday and Tuesday were over 100 degrees here in sunny Arizona, and then the wind started. Right now it's raining and 63 degrees. Unfortunately for the kids, they had their last day of school - "water day" today. Vicki was the only one of our three who dared to get soaked by the fire department. You go girl. Tomorrow isn't going to be any better, I hear. To be honest, I'm not complaining. I love windy weather (ok, it's a bit too windy today) and rain; the smell of creosote and moisture on the desert plants so desperate for water. I can almost conjure up the sound of waves pounding in front of me and the spray of water on my face. Maybe I'm the crazy one?! :) Don't get me wrong, I really love the desert and the temperate days, but I REALLY miss waves pounding on the shore and water splashing me as I'm sitting on the pier. Thankfully (thank you, Mom and Dad!!) we're visiting Michigan this summer, and I can experience the real thing!!


Wednesday, May 21, 2008

Eyeballs In Heaven




Last night Carlos said he was scared and couldn't go to sleep. Many nights he says this before going to bed, and usually he's afraid of spiders or bobcats or something scary from a movie. Last night, it was eyeballs. We had a conversation in the car a couple of weeks ago along with Vicki when we saw a dead dog by the side of the road. Whenever that occurs, we usually end up talking about God and heaven. Well, the kids were trying to figure out what being a "spirit" was like - our spirit inside of us. Carlos wanted to know if we were going to have our eyeballs in heaven because he wants to see. When I again tried explaining "spirit" and that we won't take our eyeballs with us, he started crying that he wants his eyeballs to come with him and he doesn't want heaven to be filled with people without eyeballs. Sounds scary to me! So last night, the eyeballs came up again. Yikes! So, for Carlos, here's a photo just for you...


Tuesday, May 20, 2008

A New Day


A New Day - Finally I launch a blog. I've had the template set up for months, but haven't found the time to do it. We're thankfully looking forward to summer (WHAT?!!). No sports, no homework, not so much running here and there. Of course the kids are just glad to be out of school!
Why "The Narrow Road"?
Matthew 7:13 13 (Amplified Bible)
13Enter through the narrow gate; for wide is the gate and spacious and broad is the way that leads away to destruction, and many are those who are entering through it.
The "broad way" is easy, and what our human nature prefers! Our desire is the "narrow road" - following God's way in this world that caters to our flesh. That isn't to say we often fail, and rarely is it easy, but it's our journey; making our way to Christlikeness.